"Blaming bad outcomes on anyone or anything other than one’s self is essentially wishing that reality is different than it is, which is silly. And it is subversive because it diverts one’s attention away from mustering up the personal strength and other qualities that are required to produce the best possible outcomes."
-Ray Dalio, Principles
You are not responsible for every negative circumstance in your life. But, by always taking responsibility you become response able.
Being response able allows us to take action which puts you in control of your life.
The opposite is placing blame which means your white flag is raised, your hands are up- you have given up control.
Navy Seals learn how to remain in control despite their circumstances. Marcus Luttrell, Navy Seal and author of the book Lone Survivor, found himself paralyzed from the waste down with numerous bullet wounds throughout his body after a mission gone bad. He had two options...roll over and die or draw a line in the sand. Marcus chose to draw a line in front of his body and if he was able to crawl on his elbows to the point where his feet crossed the line, he would draw another. By segmenting the impossible task of crawling 7 miles on his elbows he was able to make it out alive. He took control and was response able.
While most of us will never face anything like the scenario above we can still learn from it. What seemingly impossible task are you facing today? What goal have you yet to achieve? Break that task or goal down into the most basic step, draw that line and then cross it- again and again.
We live in a time of unimaginable abundance. Excuses will always be easy and hard work will always be hard. Embrace the hard stuff, draw your line and keep crossing it.